Partner with Your Life!

There are many ways in which you can have downtime whether it’s 10 minutes, 2 hours or if you can, a whole day.

  • Take a walk, whether it’s short or long isn’t important! This
    is not for exercise, it’s to move your energy.
  • If it’s a longer chunk of time, make plans to go somewhere
    for the day.
  • Buy yourself some lovely flowers. (You don’t have to wait
    for someone else to buy them for you.)
  • Light a candle, meditate and just relax for 20 minutes.
  • Watch a funny movie.
  • Turn off your cell phone, your tablet and anything that distracts you
    from taking a complete break.
  • If you’re near one, go to the beach and walk on the sand by the ocean, it’s amazingly relaxing and tranquil.
  • Take a 10 minute nap.

Whatever you decide to do, this is to have downtime! It also allows you to become completely present so you partner with your own life. No technology, time to just ‘be’ whether you are on your own or not. If you haven’t taken the time to do this in the past, start now, I promise you will feel the difference.

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Is This You?

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“In everyone’s life, at some time our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame
by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those
people who rekindle the inner spirit.”  – Albert Schweitzer

If you’re not happy to get out of bed in the morning because you’re excited about the day ahead, then something needs to change.

It could be as simple as not having enough support and at times you feel overwhelmed and isolated!

If this is the case, you may need to look at how you can interact and brainstorm with people more regularly. Maybe you meet with or talk to a colleague, a mastermind group or your coach. Attend networking events and set coffee dates to get to know people better. Also, having some kind of preplanned daily process in place will help you to stay out of overwhelm.

From time to time you might feel tired and the fire gets dampened, however always remember you have a choice, it doesn’t have to stay this way. Take back your power, stoke the fire and tap into your support system.

Have a fantastic week,
‘Til next time,
To Your Success and Brilliance,

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The Power of Hypnosis to raise Self Confidence

 Hypnosis is not weird and it’s not magic!   It has been used in very positive ways for many years and is a very constructive tool when used by a trained professional. It can make a huge difference in someone’s life and business and is a safe, relaxing way to stop negative mind chatter and unwanted habits or behaviors.

It can be used to overcome limiting beliefs, to conquer fear of speaking, give you more self confidence, to decrease stress and anxiety and can also help with weight loss among a myriad of other things.

You have two areas of your mind. They are not two minds they are two separate spheres of activity within one brain.  The conscious area of your mind which makes up 10% of your brain power is the reasoning area, the one that makes choices. For example, choosing a movie, a book, a home etc.

Your subconscious represents 90% of your brainpower and everything else in your body is actually functioning from your sub-conscious. This part of your mind accepts messages, both positive and negative without any reasoning.

You only have 10% of conscious memory to help you create strong self confidence.  However, you want more than this! You want to feel empowered and confident and you want to think positively without doubting your abilities so that you know
and believe that you can create and achieve all the success you want in life and business.

But, maybe you have self limiting beliefs you are not even aware of and they are holding you back and sabotaging your success.   Maybe you find yourself thinking “I can’t” or “what if” instead of believing “I can do absolutely anything I make a decision to do.”

The neurons in the brain can be re-wired and re-programmed much like you would reprogram a computer. Zapping negative thinking and behavior using hypnosis is very powerful because it can be used to access your subconscious and replace the old messages with positive, confident powerful messages that really work to benefit you.

Two of the most popular questions I’m asked are; Will hypnosis succeed if I haven’t had success before?  Can anybody be hypnotized?

Everybody can be hypnotized by an experienced trained professional.   However, it will only work if you really want it to.  For example, if you are constantly thinking “Oh my god what if I fail” and although you say you want to think differently you don’t take any action to help this happen it will be a lot more challenging to change your mindset. You have to really want to change your thinking and/or behavior for yourself.

I’ve been a certified master clinical hypnotherapist for over 20 years and I’m a certified results coach, NLP practitioner and stress management counselor so I have many years of   experience and training.

Since I became a coach 17 years ago, I’ve been using hypnosis on the phone with clients who want to increase their confidence and alleviate negative mind chatter and self limiting beliefs  for anxiety, fears, doubts, obsessive behavior and fear of speaking as well as weight control, with fantastic results.  However, hypnosis is not a magic potion!

Confidence comes from being willing to take action in conjunction with hypnosis.

Hypnosis works by placing someone in a deeply relaxed state and then with their permission, introducing new thoughts patterns into the subconscious area of your mind.

You are not asleep, you can hear everything that is being said and because you’re so deeply relaxed hearing sounds doesn’t bother you in any way.    We don’t swing watches or use pendulums and a hypnotherapist can never make you do anything against your own values.  It’s really just a state of ultra deep relaxation that allows a professional to access your subconscious quickly and easily.  And, from what my clients tell me makes a huge difference in the way they think, act and behave.

Hypnosis can help someone change the way they think so that any negative is replaced with positive thinking.  Learning to think a different way and have auto-suggestions so that the changes take place faster is very powerful and makes it so much easier to achieve success and abundance in business and in life.  However, as I said, it’s not magic. You still need plans and actions to make the new thinking even stronger.  If you are saying one thing and yet your actions say another then you are not being congruent and your conscious and Subconscious are not integrated.

If you decide this is something you would like to explore to change the way you think or change a behavior that no longer works for you, make sure you go to someone who is recommended or, do some research to make sure they are competently trained.

I offer a complimentary 20 minute phone (phone or Skype) hypno-consult to see if hypnosis is an option for any challenges you may be having.  If you are interested in this please email info@yourstairwaytowealth.com.

Hypnosis might change your life in a very positive way!

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Hazel says “…”

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“Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money,
but you cannot get more time.” – Jim Rohn     

I think there are two things that people don’t pay enough attention to!

  1. The time you waste that could be used productively which
    means paying more attention to time management and using
    a daily time log so you can chunk things together.
  2. Becoming consciously aware and honest with yourself so that if
    your results are not what you want, it’s not because you’re doing
    something wrong, it could just be because your mindset needs
    some tweaking to get your energy re-balanced.

Do either of these feel familiar to you??

There are two priorities that must be in place for a business to succeed. As important as it is to have plans so you can take action, it’s even more important to have the right kind of mindset so that negative mind chatter is not sabotaging your success without you even realizing it.

To successfully succeed, it’s really important to know that if it’s a little rocky you might need to move out of the comfort zone you’re in and create a new one so that you can move forward into the freedom and success you want!

‘Til next time,
Have a fun-filled week,
To Your Success and Brilliance,

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What Everybody Ought to Know!

There are so many ways to promote your business today that sometimes it’s challenging to know what will work and what won’t. What I will tell you is, without some kind of marketing you will find it very difficult to attract the number of clients/customers you want, which in turn means you don’t make the income you desire.

It goes without saying that having a consistent presence on social media is very important, even if it’s only for visibility and to build your list.  When I say consistent I mean really regularly, preferably at least once a day on each site on your business page.

If you have pages (hopefully you have a personal and business page if you are in business), for example on Facebook and someone takes a look and sees that you rarely/never post anything, they might wonder what kind of business you run if it’s too much bother to post something on your business page, plus you are not getting visibility and you are not creating trust.  This applies to all relevant social media: Twitter, Linked In, Pinterest, Google Plus and Facebook, etc.  It’s a bit pointless to have thousands of friends or ‘likes’ on FB if you are not going to connect with these people.

Networking groups are great if you attend on a consistent basis.  Even if you just attend once a month, if you are going regularly you will get to know people. Even more important is arranging to have coffee dates with members so you get to know more about them and what they do and in turn they get to know more about you.

I believe there’s a caveat for networking groups. Memberships are generally expensive, so if you haven’t got a return on your money within 2 years as much as you might like the group, it obviously isn’t working for you.

I still attend networking meetings if becoming a member is not a requirement and I can just pay for each meeting.  It’s a long time since I joined an organization where the rule was I had to attend every week.  However, when I first started back in the 90’s I did join BNI and it was really great.  They allow one person per profession, you meet weekly so you get to really know people and it actually kick-started my coaching business, so although the membership plus the weekly fees were expensive it more than paid for itself within the first year.  If it had not done so within 2 years I would not have signed up again.

I will tell you a couple of things from experience and what I learned over the years from wonderful mentors.  If you know me, you will know that I am all about positive thinking so what I’m about to write is not negative thinking, it’s realistic if you want to achieve success in business.

If you are joining a group to put their logo on your website, it’s the wrong reason, if you are paying for a membership just because you like the people, it’s the wrong reason.

It’s great to meet and connect with new people, but realistically business is about gratitude, attitude and making money and if you’re not making money from the membership, whatever your reasoning might be, you are wasting time and money.

If you want to be part of something without making money, volunteer so you can give back.  There are many organizations that would be really thankful for more help.  It’s easy to give money and you can of course do both, but time is much more precious and you also get to meet many wonderful people.

Whether you’ve been in business for many years or are just starting out, attending business events is also very important.  You never know who you might meet and you will hopefully learn from the host or the speakers.  Attending events over the years made it possible for me to get known by numerous people and invited to be a guest on many tele-summits that I otherwise would never have connected with.  Although not as many anymore, I still attend events from time to time if they are within driving distance.

If you have a list, you can offer free tele-conferences or webinars or you can put out a survey much as I have done and find out what people actually want.

It’s important to always remember that making a plan and taking action is of course important, but I think there are two other things that are more crucial and that’s mindset and marketing.  Without the right kind of mindset, even if you consciously think yours is great, if you are not where you want to be you, are probably subconsciously sabotaging yourself.

If you have any questions don’t hesitate to email me at info@yourstairwaytowealth.com, I reply to emails personally.

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Taking a Respite!

There are many ways in which you can take alone time, whether it’s 10 minutes, 2 hours or if you can, a whole day.

  • Take a walk, whether it’s short or long isn’t important! This is not for
    exercise, it’s to move your energy. Don’t listen to your iPod, just let
    your thoughts drift.
  • Light a candle, run a bath and just relax for 20 minutes.
  • Do some yoga.
  • Watch a funny movie.
  • Turn off your cell phone and other technology, anything that distracts
    you from the silence and downtime.
  • Have a glass of cold water or tea with lemon.
  • If you’re near one, go to the beach and walk on the sand by the ocean,
    it’s amazingly relaxing and tranquil.
  • Take a 10 minute nap

Whatever you decide to do don’t turn it into what I call a yack fest :-) This is to have downtime! No talking or texting, time to just ‘be’ with you. If you haven’t taken the time to do this in the past, first try it for one week, I promise you will feel the difference.

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3 Important Questions!!

I’ve talked before about questions, so I’m mentioning it again. Asking yourself questions is probably one of the most powerful ways in which to move forward!

If it’s something you don’t do regularly and you want to make some changes or tweak some things in your life or business, there are three very powerful questions you can ask yourself that could create more focus, decrease stress and stop procrastination.

  1. “Am I where I want to be or am I selling out on myself?”
  2. “Do I know what people want or do I think this is what they need?”  (This can be a game changer if you are not making enough money.)
  3. “If my life depended on taking action by making some changes, what would I
    do?” (Look at why you haven’t already made the changes.) 

Please don’t use the excuse about no time, no money, no confidence, etc. There’s always time, money can usually be found if something is really important and your confidence and belief in yourself can only get stronger as you make your world look the way you want it to.

Also, don’t go into “but what if.” All that happens when you do this is you set yourself up to have anticipatory anxiety.

Don’t get old with regrets about all the things you didn’t do. Live your life to the fullest and always live it with the mindset of being in service in some way to others. (I don’t mean your partner or children :-) )

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Does Fear Take Over?

Why do some people become really successful and some people don’t quite make it? They keep pushing forward but it doesn’t happen and even though they keep taking action, nothing changes!  Why do you suppose this is?

There are a myriad of reasons this happens, but the underlying reason is usually fear based.  It could be because you are afraid that you will fail and then people will say, “I told you so” or sometimes it’s fear of success because you think people won’t like you if you have money.

The only thing you need to do is make a decision that you are not going to let fear or doubt hold you back. You don’t need to break a board, walk on hot coals, or anything else, just make a decision, take action and watch your energy soar.

Fear can’t take over unless you allow it to.  Believe it or not, if you’re not in actual danger, fear is not even real. I know it feels real, yet it’s just a thought.  The subconscious doesn’t know the difference between what is real and what is not.  It’s up to you to consciously choose how you want to think.

Ask yourself how long you’ve been saying “I want to…I’m going to…I should…” and yet nothing is changing. You’ve probably heard that old quote that goes something like this, “doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results will make you crazy.”

Whether it’s professional or life in general, if you’re not where you want to be get honest with yourself. Are you holding yourself back because you’re afraid of something?  I don’t have to know you to know that you’ve probably had some successes in your life.

Write down 3 things you’ve done that you consider a success. Doesn’t matter what, if you took action, it’s a success.  Now ask yourself what you were thinking and what you did to make those things happen. If you know it’s something people want and you’ve done it once, you can do it again.  Then ask yourself…………

  • What’s the worst that can happen if you take a risk?
  • What’s the best that can happen?

When you answer these questions for yourself, I think you might see that nothing really catastrophic can happen if you take a leap of faith. Don’t let fear take away your power.

Often it’s just about getting permission.  I know that sounds ridiculous if you’re an adult, however you would be surprised how many times I’ve heard a client say, “thank you, you just gave me permission!”  I didn’t of course, not in those words, however by saying it was OK they took that as being given permission.

Just like I did when I took off the whole weekend and did absolutely nothing, after the initial stumble I gave myself permission.  You don’t need it from anyone else you just need to give it to yourself.

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Is Time Your Nemesis?

We all have the same 24 hours each day and if you are really honest with yourself, the words “I don’t have time” are just an excuse. Sorry to be so blunt but I’ve been there and it doesn’t work.  You will make time to do the things you want to get done. Think about it, how often do you say “I don’t have time” to going out for dinner, a concert, a movie, time with friends, etc.  Probably rarely because it’s something you want to do.

The secret to having a successful business where you also have time for you is to set boundaries, have a schedule that you commit to and take things one at a time.

If you avoid taking action that will take you closer to your goals, it often creates procrastination which can then become a habit, thus you will find that moving forward becomes more challenging.

I suggest asking questions of yourself so you can see what you need to prioritize.

For example:  “On a scale of 1-10 how important is it to get done?”  “Do I have a schedule I follow?”  “Where can I put 10 minutes each day into my schedule so I have time for me?”

You are way too important to nickel and dime your time and you deserve to achieve the results you want.

Don’t focus on minutes and hours, just focus on accomplishments and you will find your life in all areas will flourish.

Time is one of those things that can help you to either create success or not.  You can transform your life if you change the way you think about time and its benefits.

I would also suggest that you celebrate yourself in some way each time you achieve something that takes you closer to the result you want.  Maybe you can take an hour to read that book you’ve been meaning to read or book a manicure or just go for a long walk.  Whatever it is, it needs to be just for you, something you would really get pleasure from doing.

Starting now move forward boldly, use the brilliance I know you have and make time for the things that are important for your personal and business growth.

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Does the Time Bandit Hold You Hostage

There really is a Universal Law of Time.  I call it The Time Bandit because if you allow it, it will hold you hostage! When you don’t set boundaries or have a plan it creates negative energy and in turn hinders you from attracting what you really want in life and business.

The more you plan your time, believe it or not, the more time you will have and the more productive, energized and effective you become.   We all have the same 24 hours each day so having balance and being stress free depends on how you manage those 24 hours.

I often hear people say, “I don’t have time.” Is that an excuse?  Look at why you don’t want to make time.  Maybe fear is involved in case something doesn’t work out or you don’t feel confident enough!

Looking at what time really means to you is important so that you don’t find yourself procrastinating.

You want to be able to get 80% of what needs to be done in 20% of the time, not 20% in 80% of the time, which is unfortunately what a lot of people do.

In today’s world everyone wants instant gratification which usually means wanting things instantly.  Time can be stretched if you give yourself permission not to be perfect and not to stress if everything doesn’t get done in one day.

Instant gratification doesn’t really work if you want life to be at it’s best.  It takes time and patience to attract positive things and to create the business and life you really want.

It also takes time to change old thinking and, it takes having confidence and belief in yourself so you can discover what astonishing inner power you really have.

You can’t jump from the bottom of the ladder to the top in one leap, you have to take it one rung at a time and allow it to take as long as it takes.  However, if you have good time management and you set boundaries, you will find that you can create balance and work more productively rather than just being busy.

I had a client last year who left me a frantic message one day telling me she had committed to taking on a new project and had said yes without thinking it through and had no idea how she was going to fit this into her schedule.  Had she run it by me before making the commitment I would have told her to respond with the following kind of message;

“I appreciate the opportunity and would love to do this for you however, I can’t take it on until………………..(a date when the schedule is lighter.)

When you say ‘yes’ to everything you could be coming from an unconscious poverty mentality and are afraid to say ‘no’ in case the request goes away.   When you are thinking from a prosperity mentality, people are more likely to respect that you are in demand and will probably wait.

Create some time boundaries.  Even if you have a home office you can have business hours and let everyone know that during those hours you don’t take personal calls until the end of the day.

Give yourself specific times to check email or go on social media.  Turn off the sound to your email so you are not distracted because you are curious about who is leaving you an email.

Use a timer.  I use a small digital timer for almost everything. It’s a simple tool I’ve been using for a long time and it allows me to plan my days more effectively.  Especially, if you are writing a book or you write articles.

Last but not least for now, is your environment.

If you have stacks of paper and clutter in your office it might feel overwhelming when you walk in the door, not really a good way to start your day. Maybe it’s time to organize.
If you don’t like the color of your office, a splash of paint or pictures on the walls help.
Flowers, even one makes a difference, a candle. some very light classical music playing softly in the background. (no vocals)

All these things make a difference to how you use your time.  Create the working and living space in your life to reflect who you are and how you would ideally like to feel when you are there.

Love what you do, love where you do it and your days will be more productive than you ever imagined and you will find that you have more free time.

If you have any questions please feel free to email me at Hazel@yourstairwaytowealth.com.

 

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