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September 28, 2015

Welcome to Your Weekly Wisdom

“A Successful Person Is One Who Can Lay a Firm Foundation With The
Bricks That Others Throw At Him Or Her.” – David Brinkley

If you have a tendency to listen to what other people say or what they are doing and you take action based on that, now is the best time to make some changes so that you can do things differently for the last quarter of this year and flow more smoothly into 2016.

Don’t listen to other people’s negativity or watch what others are doing before you take action. Believe in yourself, trust your own instincts. When you take action based on other people, you might find that because you didn’t listen to yourself, you end up with a negative outcome.

Trust yourself. The only way to create success and live the life you want is to authentically be who YOU are so you tap into your own inner brilliance and ‘Say Yes To You.’

The fastest and most powerful way to change the way you think is to use hypnosis. To find out more about how this works, to see a list of myths and facts about hypnosis and to download the new Free Ebook ‘Cultivating a Positive Outlook for a Happy and Successful Life,‘ visit

Save the date for our new Free Tele/Web conference on October 20th, 2015. Actual topic to be announced but be assured it will be something that will help you to take your life and business to the next level. If you have anything you would especially like to learn more about please let me know.

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Avoiding the Denial Trap

September 22, 2015

It’s actually not very difficult to recognize denial if you know what to look for!  It can apply to and, affect all areas of your life.

Addiction is a prime example of denial. I’m not going to talk about this topic right now because it’s much bigger than this article warrants however, some of the things that come under the same heading are food, exercise, sex, gambling and shopping. Addiction is not just about alcohol and drugs, any form of addiction, even being a workaholic is a kind of addiction but it’s often easier than dealing with the truth.   Staying in denial in any way can lead to living a life of chaos and often ends up sabotaging your professional life..

Why would someone want to stay in denial? It’s so much easier to sweep under the rug work or challenges you don’t want to deal with. Let’s use the example of money and relationships, think about these questions for a moment.

  • Do you have all the clients you want?
  • Are you making enough money to live the lifestyle you want?
  • Do you say one thing and then do another? (this is something
    I’ve been guilty of in the past.)
  • Do you stay focused and follow through on commitments? If not, why not?
  • Are you being authentic or are you letting people see what you want them to
    see yet the real story is very different? (this is a big one in business for a lot
    of people)
  • How might being in denial hurt your business?

What about in relationships!

  • Are you truly happy?
  • Do you stay in the relationship because it’s easier
    and you are afraid to be alone?
  • Do you communicate effectively with your partner?
  • If you have kids, what kind of role modeling are they seeing?
    (if you are in denial on this it can lead to lots of problems as
    the child gets older)
  • Do you or your partner drink too much?
  • Do you say whatever you think your partner wants to hear
    instead of being honest about your feelings?

I could give you many, many more examples but, money and relationships are the latest challenges I’ve been asked about so I’m using them.

I’ve often been asked “how can I change this without me feeling guilty?”

You can of course find a therapist and deal with underlying issues, you can hire a coach who can help you to get honest, not someone who will tell you what you want to hear but someone with your permission, who will push you to overcome the denial, you can of course get really gut honest with yourself and answer not only these questions but any question that might change the way you are living your life or building your business.

One of the fastest ways to change the way you think is with hypnosis because it goes straight into your subconscious.  If you want to read some myths and facts about hypnosis visit the newly designed website at If you intend to deal with this on your own, you need to have some kind of objective non judgmental support system who are willing to hold you accountable. Don’t allow your subconscious thinking to run your life, it’s way more powerful than the conscious area of your mind and, it will if left to its own device!

The only thing that living in denial does, is dilute your energy and decreases your power.

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Procrastination Be Gone!

September 8, 2015

For many years I allowed fear to become my greatest driver. And, procrastination became my default position! I know what it’s like to put off taking the action that can help you to grow a strong and successful business and a full empowered life.
I also know what it’s like to do the same thing in relationships, with friends or family and even with bosses when something needs to be said that might result in conflict.

However, this article is about not allowing fear to become so powerful that instead of opening doors to success, procrastination sabotages any positive results that you could have achieved.

These are some of the techniques I used to move past procrastination.  Use what works for you and of course ignore what doesn’t.

First, procrastination is just a word in your mind and doesn’t exist unless you allow it to!
What do I mean by this? If you start calling yourself a procrastinator because you are doubtful about the outcome of actions you intend to take, that’s what you will become because that’s how you ‘see’ yourself.

The dictionary defines the word procrastination as stopping and waiting to act because of fear or doubt and wavering about what you want to do.

If this is the case, it’s obviously just a word and habit that you learned.  This means, you can also unlearn and re-learn so you change the behavior and perceive things differently.

When you are an entrepreneur or small business owner, especially if you have a home based business, it’s very easy to put off doing things you don’t find especially enjoyable and yet, often people who procrastinate work much longer hours almost as if spending more time will make up for what you are not doing. But, working longer hours and being busy does not equate to being productive.

Maybe you don’t know where to begin or you doubt yourself and your skills so it becomes more comfortable to do the things you know you are capable of completing instead.   However, the ‘bigger’ things don’t just disappear in fact, if anything, when you put off important projects things get really backed up and you then find yourself overwhelmed because there’s so much to do.

If the only thing that procrastination does is to create stress and overwhelm why do you suppose so many entrepreneurs do this? Let’s take a look at some of the causes.

The first reason is often F.E.A.R. It’s so much easier to do something you like rather than find out that what you really need to get done might not work.

It’s also a way not to even acknowledge the doubt and fear you may have because when you’re busy you don’t have to acknowledge the reasons.

It’s really OK to have some fear, in fact it’s quite normal, especially when you are doing something new or you want to do something and don’t know how it will affect your life or your business.

Whatever the reason behind your procrastination, the first step is to get really honest with yourself. This means, as much as you may not want to, you need to become much more conscious about your thinking so you have the ability to recognize and control those thoughts if they come up and change the behavior to something that is more productive for you.

Is procrastinating worth it? I can tell you from personal experience that it’s not.

Procrastination just ends up draining your energy and sabotaging your success.
When you can look at the reasons for this behavior and you have some plans in place, procrastination can become a thing of the past.

I’m not going to tell you that you will never ever procrastinate again! You’re human. It’s about how quickly you recognize what you are doing so you can change the behavior immediately and get back on track.

So let’s take a fuller look at how you can overcome this habit.

Change Your Programming!

It’s really quite simple! If you don’t like the program in your mind, just like a TV, change it!

Just for a moment I want you to think about everything you need to get done in the coming week. How does it look?

If you are someone who often puts off things because it’s easier, I can almost guarantee that your mental to do list is probably chaotic and your mind wanders off on different tracks as you continually think of different things that need to be done.

When this happens it can be very challenging to know where would be the best place to start!

Maybe it’s time to take a different approach!

Outside of fear, one of the biggest causes of procrastination is lack of proper planning so that you can stay productive and calm without getting caught in the fear trap or go into the shiny bauble syndrome, which means you want to be able to do everything at the same time.

That is not possible, all you will end up with is a lot of things half done and nothing completely finished.

If you don’t create some kind of plan or process, everything can seem very over-whelming. The more you are overwhelmed the more likely it is that fear can take over.

First ask yourself what will happen if you don’t change this behavior and take action. How will it make you feel?

Now, ask yourself what will happen if you do take action and you work on projects one at a time and get things done. How will it make you feel?

Next, I suggest you take a sheet of paper and a pen, handwriting is more powerful than typing because it flows directly from the hand to your brain.

Make a list of absolutely everything that needs to be done and that you need to get finished. Don’t allow this to faze you, remember, all you are doing is making a list so you can get some clarity.

When the list is finished prioritize the five most important items. You will get to the others when the first five are completed.

When that’s done, make a list of what actions you need to take to get the top priority on the list completed first.

Next, break down those actions into smaller chunks. The most important key here is “do one thing at a time.” Learn to change this one simple pattern and you will never feel overwhelmed or chaotic again.

If you need to and you can, delegate! Delegation is often challenging for small business owners.

No matter how big your business or how big your team is, most of us started out on our own and we’re used to running things the way we think they need to be run but handing over the things that are not your strengths so you can focus on the things that are, is a great way to avoid making excuses and procrastinating!

Need any help, email me for a complimentary, no obligation, 20 minute phone chat to help you to stay on track.

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Missing An Unexpected Opportunity!

August 25, 2015

I was sitting in a Dr.’s office the other day and because the Dr. was running late, which is not an unusual occurrence in LA, one of his patients who was also waiting, started talking to me.  Let me preface this by saying this was a medical practice that dealt with arthritis and related issues, not an office where people go when they have chronic illness.

At some point, because the conversation was going that way, I asked her what she did.  She told me she’s an Esthetician. After asking a few more questions, she told me she’s passionate about what she does and how helping other women makes her feel so great. I discovered that her office was only about 10 minutes from where I live.

I mentioned that I badly needed a facial.  She had an opening! That would have been a good time to just quietly hand me her card and say something like “I offer a 15 minute complimentary consultation. Please call me if I can help you in any way.” However, she let the moment slip by and did nothing.  Maybe she felt it was too pushy or not appropriate, that I don’t know. What I do know is that it was a missed opportunity!

I could of course, have asked her for a card but decided not to do that.  My usual thinking is always “how can I support or help this person”?  So why didn’t I ask for her card?

This is where mindset took over!  It wasn’t my place at that time to be the teacher.  If she wasn’t interested in letting me find out about her, I did wonder just how good she was at what she does!   It wasn’t the time for a long conversation but if she gave me her card I might have taken it further and she might have a new client.

If someone would have said to me, “I wish I could attract more clients or I get so overwhelmed and stressed,” I would have quietly handed them a business card and just said,“ if there’s ever anything I can do to support you please contact me.”  No selling, just a helping hand.

Two minutes later she was called in to see the Dr. and I didn’t see her again!  I had no way to contact her so ultimately I went to someone else.  She lost a prospective client mainly because she either didn’t have a process developed or because she was worried about what I would think!

There are many situations in which opportunities are lost because we are not thinking clearly.

You can never tell where or when you might meet someone who is interested in or needs your services.  I’m not suggesting you do a whole long sales pitch, which you should never do, even at networking events.  That’s a quick turn off for most people.

At networking events especially, If you really want to be supportive you can say to someone “what do you do” “how can I help you.”  At some point they will ask what you do. If they don’t, they are probably not people you want as clients.

However, not handing someone a business card when it’s appropriate or in the kind of situation I explained above is a lost opportunity to get to know someone you haven’t met before.  You never know where it will lead.

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12 Simple Steps to Decrease Stress

August 11, 2015

Stress is a big factor in life for most people and I’m sure there are times when you would like more hours in the day. However, since that’s not possible, it’s a matter of how you structure your time during so you make each hour count.

Anyway, if you think about it, even if there was some way to add more hours you’d probably find it wouldn’t solve your time challenges and it would end up creating more stress. Some of the things I suggest so you can stay productive and focused are:

  • Use a regular calendar! Don’t rely just on your phone or computer.
    Also use some kind of daily time log.
  • Delegate! Free yourself up to do what you do best and hire someone else to do the things you don’t want or like to do. If you can’t afford a VA ask around and see if someone might like to do a little work for you in their spare time for a few dollars.
  • Networking groups. It’s important to be visible so people get to know you but make sure your target market attends these groups too. Don’t become a member of a group unless you are sure it’s going to have a positive impact for you.
  • If you belong to a group that meets weekly make sure that you are getting sufficient business from the group to warrant taking time away from actually working at your business.
  • Social media is extremely important to a business, not only does it keep you in front of people, if you have a plan you can also make money. However, make sure you plan for this time, don’t allow it to become a time suck.
  • Set specific times for social media and also for email.
  • Turn off the sound on your computer so it doesn’t ping every time you receive an email. Decide which social media sites are the best ones for your specific business and remember it’s about creating relationships not just about selling.
  • Use a timer. This is one of the least expensive and most effective tools for staying on track each day.
  • Keep a daily journal. Note things you are grateful for so that you focus on what you do have, not what you don’t. Also list successes so you can see just how much you’ve actually done each day.
  • Have a daily practice of some kind that keeps you centered. Some people like yoga, others like meditation, use whatever works for you.
  • Be sure to take regular breaks, at least every 90-120 minute. Just ten minutes away from technology can you give you a real boost in energy!
  • Do NOT eat lunch at your desk. Even if you only take 30 minutes, take a lunch break.

These are just a few ideas. When you have systems of one kind or another in place you will find your days flow so much more smoothly and you will get more done.

Remember, that the word system doesn’t have to be a big process this is about using time wisely. As long as you have some kind of plan in place so you don’t procrastinate, do whatever works for you.

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