January 30, 2015 (4:34 am)
Fear is just a feeling unless you are in actual danger! It’s an illusion created by your mind. Denial is a barrier that you erect so you don’t really have to look at things head on!
You can even be in denial about having fear because it’s easier to make excuses than to say you are fearful about something. Not wanting to admit that you are stuck because you are afraid, is a huge block to allowing your own brilliance to come to the surface. Denial makes It so much easier to sweep under the rug what you don’t want to deal with.
There are many ways in which fear can trip you up and sabotage your success without even being aware that it’s the reason. Maybe you’re afraid you will fail or that you will be so successful people will feel differently about you. Maybe you feel you don’t deserve to be successful or that you don’t have enough education to be taken seriously. Of course there are also all the “What If’s.” Fear if not tacked head on, can absolutely paralyze your ability to achieve what you want in any area of your life!
The first thing you need to remember is that all that negative mind chatter is probably not really yours and if you keep allowing it to go round and round in your head you will never be able to think bigger.
You have 90% of subconscious that can continually keep you stuck if you allow it. What would happen if you allowed the 10% of conscious logical thinking to recognize why you are fearful so you can make the changes?
Often times, as I found out, even when I thought I had the negativity licked, it didn’t stop my subconscious from continuing to play games with my head so I continued to stay stuck until I decided ‘enough was enough.’ I finally reached out and got some help to make the changes happen faster. It’s not that you will never have another negative thought, it’s how quickly you change it when it happens so it doesn’t have time to get re-rooted!
You have the power of choice which means you have the ability to change these patterns if you really want to, especially if they are holding you back.
Using a term from psychology, F.E.A.R is False Evidence Appearing Real which is why it’s an illusion! It’s just a thought created by your own mind. Thoughts turn into feelings, feelings into emotion → actions create the outcomes, whether positive or negative.
One of the ways in which I changed fears was to ask myself, “What’s the worst thing that can happen if I take a risk?” Once you can see this, it becomes much easier, if you get into a fear based place to change your thinking.
When you stop living life fearfully, it will be much harder to put up the walls of denial thus you can start living your life more powerfully. There are various ways in which you can let go of fear so it doesn’t get in your way.
I could give you many, many more examples but these are just a few that can get you started.
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