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If Your Life was a Genre what would it be?


August 25, 2016

Somebody once asked me if I was to describe my life as a genre what would I say? Would it be a comedy, a grand drama perhaps, a coffee table book or……………

It took me a while to be able to relate my life to a genre and I’m sure this is going to be an ongoing process, however, I’m going to share what I already discovered and that’s what life is about. An exciting journey of discovery, passion, commitment, acceptance and perseverance!

The first 40 years of my life could certainly be called a chaotic tragic drama that was slowly unfolding. I had learned and experienced every kind of negative role modeling, and abuse to live my life in a really dramatic, unhealthy and chaotic way.

I would hope all children live, learn and grow in a wonderful loving environment and although I didn’t grow up that way, with a lot of work, my life turned out OK. Along the way I re-learned how to live life in a much healthier, happier, peaceful way.

With each passing year my life became more interesting and often very challenging, yet it was also very exciting and I was learning so much about myself and the world that I might never have done if I’d lived a different kind of life.

By the time I was in my 40’s, life had really become more like an adventure comedy. Still chaotic and often challenging but at least I could find humor in the situations I got into, especially the relationships. If I’d only had the knowledge then that I have now!

After being married for 25 years I was in the unknown world of building a business, dating, overcoming who I’d been told I was and how I should think I was finally starting to create who I really was, meaning the authentic me. Going through the dating scene as you get older can definitely be made into a chaotic romantic comedy movie.

When I was 50, having gone to school for a year, I received my certification as a master clinical hypnotherapist and stress management counselor and started what became, much to my surprise, a very successful private practice.

By the time I was in my late 50’s, due to a health condition, I had transformed myself again and received certifications in coaching and NLP and became a successful coach for women entrepreneurs and when I was 65 I wrote my first book that became an Amazon best seller and so came my If I can do it, you can too period?

Now I’m 75 and, although I still have quite a way to go I’m still working because I love it and still having fun, so the genre I would put my life into now would be an interesting humorous coffee table book filled with wisdom and experiences that anyone could pick up and find something they could relate to and learn from.

What I learned from doing this little exercise is that if you keep moving forward, persevere, find wonderful mentors and don’t allow fear or age to hold you back you can create anything in life that you want.

That’s the message I most want to convey from this. Never ever give up. It doesn’t matter how old you are, it’s never too late for anything.

I still learn every day. I’m much more careful who I allow into my life, I surround myself with positive thinking people, I no longer tolerate what I don’t want and I know it’s OK to not agree with everyone else. Today’s genre would be an ever evolving lifestyle that is wonderful, peaceful and happy.

How I would see my genre in the coming years I can’t tell you at present but I will know when I get to a certain point.

I encourage you to answer the question for yourself. However old you are at present this is a question worth answering. “If you had to give your life a genre, what would it be?”

Be honest because if you’re not, the only person you fool is you. The answer might be very interesting and teach you something new about yourself.

Whatever genre you see for yourself you’re a brilliant light in this world so boldly let
the brilliance shine.

 

 

 

 

 

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Simple Ways To Stay Motivated


August 11, 2016

If you are like most people, at some time or another you may have found yourself in a place where you really don’t feel motivated to achieve anything.

Is motivation something people naturally have or is it something that is learned? It’s both. Even from the time you’re born! You cry to get someone to feed or change you. As you get a little older you become curious and you want to learn how to talk and walk.

As an adult, motivation often comes from something you really want to achieve. Maybe it’s getting in shape so you feel healthier or to master certain skills to obtain your dream job, or to make much more money so you can take a fantastic vacation or buy a new car.

Why Do You Need a Why?

Motivation is based in your ‘WHY.’ The ‘Why’ is the reason behind the goal!  If it’s a big enough ‘why,’ it will keep you motivated when you are reaching for a goal. However, if you hit a slump, it doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road. That’s when your WHY becomes really important because that’s what will continue to keep you moving forward.

Motivation is the reason for people’s actions, desires and needs. It is the reason you act a certain way or it’s the cause behind repeating certain behaviors and actions.

Motivation means the inspiration behind the behavior, to induce by persuading or influencing, to cause you to do something or, it’s the impetus or driving force behind doing something.

Right now, you may have a long list of things you want to achieve and maybe the list has continued to grow because you didn’t feel motivated enough to get them done.

Your WHY has to be big enough that you are really willing to reach for it. The why is not just about money but what will having money do for you. For example if you achieve your financial goals perhaps you can buy a home, a new car or travel.

If you’re tired of putting off the things you want to achieve, the following 7 ideas can help you get unstuck so you can move forward and stay on top of your ‘to do’ list.

  1. Act as if something is already true. For example; maybe your goal is to get healthier? Make a decision that each day when you get up, you immediately get dressed in your workout clothes and head out for some form of exercise. Doing this puts you in the right mindset and gives you a mental boost.
  2. Visualize. Use images to focus on what succeeding looks like. Images are often how the brain remembers things and sometimes work better than words. Use pictures of motivating quotes and pictures of the end result that you’re trying to accomplish. Create a vision board.
  3. Take a photo. If your goal is to buy a new car.  Go to the car showroom, sit in the car and ask the salesman to take a photo of you and the car. Or take a photo standing in front of a house you’d love to buy. Post the photo somewhere you can see it often. Keeping this image in the forefront of your mind often can keep you moving forward.
  4. Use post-it notes. Stick them everywhere to remind you of your mission and goals. Use them to stay motivated about WHY you want to achieve your goals.

    You can also apply this concept electronically by including a motivational quote in your email or social media signature. Use this same concept to stay motivated by writing your recent accomplishments on paper.

  5. Make a “me” list. Every day find three new behaviors, traits or qualities you like about yourself. If possible don’t repeat anything previously written down. The purpose of doing this is to force your mind into the habit of finding the positive.
  6. Get an accountability partner. If you know someone is going to keep you accountable for things you say you are going to do, this works especially well. Think about it. How many promises have you made to yourself and then not followed through? Accountability is one of the reasons people hire coaches.  Having a coach or mentor is an investment in yourself.
  7. Create a list of motivations. Create a list of defined, specific goals. Motivation needs a target. It’s hard to get motivated with vague, undefined goals (e.g. lose weight). Instead I want to lose x amount of pounds by date.  Break them down into smaller goals that you can take bites out of regularly (e.g. walk 1 mile a day).

What if you’re still not motivated?  Lack of motivation usually comes from self limiting beliefs.

They can include:

  • Lack of faith in your own abilities.
  • Fear of failing, due to failure in the past.
  • Fear of what others might say.
  • Procrastinating has become a habit.
  • Believing there are other more important things to do.
  • Being too stressed or nervous.
  • Lack of enough stimuli or incentives.
  • Not having a strong enough WHY.

These reasons often suppress motivation and enthusiasm. They are simply excuses for not taking action. When you become aware of them, it gives you a way to change your thought process so you create new habits and a different mindset.

Maybe you have short bursts of motivation or enthusiasm. For example maybe you start out enthusiastically but you lose interest which makes it challenging to sustain motivation.

When this happens you need to stop and think about the way you are thinking and ask yourself if this is not moving forward is working for you. Maybe even write down what you are thinking. Is it because you really aren’t interested in achieving that goal? Are you afraid to succeed?

If you are constantly looking for external ways to get motivated, this usually doesn’t work. Go through the motions of making progress even if it feels forced at first. Eventually, you will find it becomes a habit.

Give yourself credit for the progress you’ve made, even if it seems small. Set small goals and reward yourself for achieving them.

Don’t attempt to do everything at once. Only do what you can handle at one time. For example, if you want to write a batch of articles and you’ve only written one and you’re now feeling it’s never going to get done, set a plan to write one every two hours or write one a day until they are done.  You’ll be surprised at how you feel when you realize you are achieving your goal. Easing up on yourself can often boost your motivation too.

Let go of unrealistic expectations. Having unrealistic expectations can prevent you from achieving or even starting something. Don’t try to be perfect. Just do the best you can.

When you start to get burned out and your motivation begins to wane, it could be because you lack balance in your life so you tend to get overwhelmed which just makes it harder to stay motivated. Work on finding a balance between the things you enjoy and your work.

There you have it! There are many more ways to keep you motivated but if you start with these seven you’ll be on your way to getting into action with much more ease. If you need any help or support with motivation or creating a vision board please email me at Hazel@yourstairwaytowealth.com to set up a time to have a complimentary phone chat.

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Quick Ways to Create Your Own Success


August 8, 2016

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“The Starting Point Of All Achievement Is Desire.” – Napoleon Hill

You have the power of choice!

One of the quickest ways to create success, whether in life or business is not to put the cart before the horse! A lot of people run around like chickens without a head. Be sure you know what it is you want before you set goals and take action.

It’s most important to ask yourself WHY you want to reach the desired outcome. Don’t just make it about money. What’s the deeper WHY? What will the money enable you to do?

People who create the most success are those that reach out for support and help. There are dozens of ways to get support, often without having to spend money. Don’t think you know it all, nine times out of ten that’s when people tend to fail.

 

Have a brilliant week
‘Til Next Time
To Your Success and Brilliance

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Your Weekly Inspiration


August 1, 2016

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“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control
of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what
you don’t.” – Steve Maraboli

Constantly wanting what you don’t have is unlikely to help you to achieve your dreams. So, make a list of the goals you would like to reach in the next 12-24 months, personal and/or professional and then put away that list to come back to at a later date.

Now, think about all the positive things you already have in your life. Start a gratitude journal and write 3-4 things you are grateful for each day. This will help you to stay rooted in the present and will also help you to stay motivated so you keep moving forward.

At the end of 12 months, take a look at that list you wrote and see where you are. You might be surprised at how much you achieved without even focusing on those things that you don’t yet see.

 

‘Til Next Time
Have a brilliant week
To Your Success and Brilliance

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Weekly Inspiration to Jump Start Your Week


July 25, 2016

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“If We Command Our Wealth, We Shall Be Rich and Free. If Our Wealth
Commands Us, We Are Poor Indeed.” – Edmund Burke

Everyone sees wealth a different way. Wealth is not just about money, it’s whatever it means to you. For you, as it does for me, it might mean having good health a balanced life and enjoying family and friends as well as financial freedom. It’s lovely to have financial wealth but true wealth also means having the right kind of balance.

If you are stressed about something in your life, whether it’s money or thinking you won’t be able to succeed, you are subconsciously diluting your energy and that’s what you are putting out to the Universe. When you are putting out negative energy you are unintentionally pushing away a wealth filled lifestyle.

If you can let go of fear, you will find yourself much more motivated to achieve what you really want in life and you will free your energy channels so you attract the positive things you want. Allow the law of prosperity into your life not the law of lack!

How exactly the Universe works, I don’t profess to know, however, from my clients and personal experience, I know that when you have a positive mindset, it does work.

‘Til Next Time
Have a brilliant week
To Your Success and Brilliance

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