Turning Down Holiday Stress

November 25, 2015

The major holidays of the year come back to back, which is where we are right now. During Thanksgiving and Christmas, people spend the most time with relatives. But, as much as you might love your family, they can contribute to stress, on top of which you probably still have other things to take care of.

Holiday stress can be of two types: preparation stress and familial stress. Let’s start with preparation stress! What is the perfect holiday? If you know what it is, give me a call. Most people are still in search of it.

Begin to deal with holiday stress by telling yourself that the perfect holiday is the stuff of imagination. It doesn’t have to be like a Norman Rockwell painting. A perfect holiday is one where everyone survives, enjoys being together and feels a degree of happiness.

First we have the holiday meal on Thanksgiving followed by the present opening on Christmas morning and even the weather. When it falls short, especially if you’re worried about what everyone will think, you put yourself in the right frame to start feeling stressed. So what if your Mom or Aunt dropped the cake or burned the rolls! It’s not the end of the world. In fact, you could turn it into a funny story for next year.

Don’t spend too much time on the preparations. Murphy’s Law states that, if something is going to go wrong it will in all probability happen over the holidays. Spending the time to make the pumpkin pie from scratch only to find out that everyone wants Grandma’s sweet potato pie won’t make you very happy. It can also end up making your guests uncomfortable because they feel you worked so hard and now they’ve let you down.

Have a game plan. Enlist the aid of other family members so that all the prep work doesn’t fall on you. Decide whose house to have dinner at and when possible, rotate each holiday. Also determine if your family and/or friends will be staying in a hotel or at your home.

Familial stress occurs when difficult relatives come to visit or you visit them. Some people are just picky. They want everything just so or they are not satisfied. Before responding to snide comments about your food or the state of your home, take a deep breath. The person with the problem is your relative, not you. Don’t go into defense mode, this just makes things more uncomfortable for everyone and sometimes can start arguments.

During holiday time people tend to take every remark personally. Any delays are a deliberate attempt by the powers that be to ruin your fun. Neither is true and stress sets in if you begin to believe that they are. If you are the kind of person who is easily offended, let another family member host the holiday dinner.

Another way to fend of stress at the holiday season is to open the floor for suggestions. When people are complaining about food, accommodations and activities, ask them to offer alternatives to your ideas. We all make plans that we think will satisfy others but that doesn’t always happen.

Holidays are about family time and remembering why you are truly thankful. It is hard to think about the good times if you are stressed out of your mind. Turn down the stress by letting go of preconceived notions of the perfect holiday, just let go and allow it to be a time of joy.

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Can You Make Someone’s Day Happier?

November 23, 2015

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget
what you did, but people will never forget how you made
them feel.”  – Maya Angelou

One of the most important things you can remember in business and in life is to show and have appreciation for everything.

It might be something small like someone letting you go in front of them at the market or someone holding a door open for you or, something huge like someone hiring you to speak to their organization.

Remember to smile at people even when you don’t know them.  You’d be surprised how nice it feels to someone when they receive a smile or a thank you and most people will smile back.

Whatever it is, if you leave someone feeling good, you might have made their day more pleasant.

This week is Thanksgiving in the US so now is a good time to put this into practice.

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Can You Exchange One Feeling for Another?

November 16, 2015

“Enthusiasm is one of the most powerful engines of success. When
you do a thing, do it with all your might. Put your whole soul into it. Stamp
it with your own personality be active, be energetic and faithful and you
will accomplish your object. Nothing great was ever achieved
without enthusiasm.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

I think this quote really says it all. Enthusiasm, passion and a positive attitude create energy. Use the energy to dampen fear and you will find pathways open up so that the Universe can provide you with what you truly want.

Think of what you want, then reach a little higher! For example; if you are thinking you want to make $75,000. 00 in 2016, stretch a little and make the goal $100,000. 00.

You may be afraid to set the bigger goal. However, fear and excitement manifest feelings in a similar way so, if you can think of it as excitement, it will be easier to keep moving toward what you want to achieve.

As the famous Mr. Emerson said, put your all into something, remember to make it yours, take action and keep moving forward.

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Replenish Yourself for the Holiday Season!

November 11, 2015

Balance as defined by the dictionary is something that brings about a state of equilibrium, a state of stability and harmony of the body and/or emotions.

One of the most important steps to creating balance is making sure that you are continually replenishing yourself both physically and emotionally.  Even ten minutes of doing something that is just for you can create a remarkable difference in creating inner peace, allowing you to bring about a greater sense of balance in all areas of your life….

•     Choose to do something healthy that makes you feel really good, something that is not about anything or anyone else.
•     Read a magazine or a book you haven’t made time for
•     Engage in visualization or meditation
•     Listen and/or dance to music (yes, you can do this alone) it’s just about movement.
•     Practice some yoga
•     Listen to a hypnosis recording
•     Perform labyrinth walking. This is a very special spiritual tool. (see website info at end of article.)

Walking a labyrinth is incredibly peaceful and spiritual. It will make you feel much more centered. If you go to an actual physical labyrinth you need time, do this in your downtime.
However, if you visit their site, you can actually do this virtually too.

By scheduling time for yourself every day, you are expanding your energy and contributing to your life in every way.

Create a Serenity Space for yourself.  Having a personal space is of prime importance not only to your sense of well being but also to attracting what you want from the Universe. Some kind of small space just for thinking and alone time!  A tiny corner of the world for when you want to clear your head and be peaceful and quiet!

You don’t need lots of space for this.  Create a space in the corner of your living room, bedroom or office.  Have some lovely candles, quiet music and big cushions or comfy chair on which to sit.

It works really well if you make this a regular part of every day, an appointment with yourself in your schedule so you have this time just for you.

Making yourself a priority is not selfish, it’s a powerful positive thing to do.  Taking time for you allows you to have more patience, focus and balance which opens you up to attracting more of what you would like from the Universe and, to being able to give more to others and the world.

When you finish reading this, take 5 minutes (set a timer if necessary,) close your eyes, take a really deep breath, slowly exhale and visualize a beautiful beach, mountain or garden.  Allow a feeling of peace and calm to flow into your body and mind.  Take another deep breath and on the exhale open your eyes.  Notice how refreshed and energized you feel.

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Can You Say No?

November 9, 2015
“Wisdom is your perspective on life, your sense of balance, your understanding of how
the various parts and principles apply and relate to each other.” – Steven R. Covey
Sometimes I ask new clients, “out of all the other professionals there are why did you choose to work with me?” The answer I get more often than not is, “you have so much experience and wisdom.”

Yes, I have lots of experience from all the training I’ve had in various modalities and from nearly 25 years of helping people with their professional and/or personal lives, however, from my perspective the experience I have from life itself is even more important.
Like most people, I’ve had ups and downs, failures and successes and from each one I’ve learned valuable lessons, created a more balanced life, have firm boundaries and have a lot of empathy for situations people get into, and, it’s taken lots of work, making many changes and many years to reach this point. I am also very grateful for every experience, both good and bad.
When you can say ‘NO,’ are willing to make changes when necessary and, have boundaries in place, you will find you have much more balance in your life and your perspective about many things will change.
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